Your Value to Me…

March 4th, 2010

To all my wonderful friends…

To the amazing person that you are, on this day I want you to know:

You are one-of-a-kind – like no other being that has ever been or ever will be – and that’s something to celebrate, for the world is a different place because of you.

Did you know that your smile can change a day and your love can change a life?

In fact, every life you come in contact with you leave changed forever. The change may be big or it may be small, but their life will always be different because of you – just like mine has.

Never underestimate the little things in life – their effect is far greater than you even suspect.

You are more powerful than you know, more loved than you feel, and of more value to others than you can guess.

Life is too short for self-pity and too long for blame.

Always remember that you are the source of love in your life, for love is who you truly are.

Regardless of whoever you’ve chosen to be in the past, you can always choose to be something completely new in this moment.

And most importantly, you do not need to be, do or have a single other thing in order to be perfect – not even if it’s being happy, doing what you love or having your dream life – for you are perfect right now, just as you are.

Whether I’ve known you a day or a lifetime, whether I know you a little or a lot, whether we’ve met in person or online, I want you to know my life is richer for you being in it. And I know there are many, many others who feel the same.

Thank you for being you!

Love, Lisa

PS As well as giving you this letter I wanted to share with you why I wrote it…

I came to write this letter due to the underwhelming (to my ego) number of friends who chose to become a fan of my new “Transforming the Lives of Thousands” page on Facebook, featuring a cause that means a huge amount to me.

The cynical part of me asked, “Do people just not care about others anymore?” But what my ego was really wondering was, “Do people just not care about me!?

After spending a bit of time with how I was feeling, letting go of my initial ego response and becoming grateful for the people who did become fans, I started to wonder, “Maybe they just don’t get what their support means to me? Maybe they just don’t get what they mean to me? Maybe they just don’t get the difference they can and do make in the world?” (yeah, just like I don’t!)

Yes, maybe you don’t know that even a tiny show of support, or just a few words of encouragement, means so much to me…most probably because I’ve not told you!

And so I decided to write you this letter, so maybe you can start to get some idea of the value you are, not only to me, but to all the people in your life.

And just to let you in on a little secret, sending this message out to everyone scares the crap out of me!

Like many people, I have that little voice in the back of my head that says things like, “What if they think it’s crap? What if they think I’m crap? What if they don’t value me? What if what if what if…??”

There’s most definitely a part of me that wants to pick and choose who I send it to, not due to their value to me, but because I want to only send it to the “safe” people I feel will appreciate it and not reject it/me…(does that sound at all familiar??)

But yesterday was the anniversary of my friend Greg dieing, and this afternoon I’ve felt it quite keenly.

I remember how it felt the week after he died, regretting with every fiber of my being having been too scared over the previous 2 months to just give him a call.

And I remember how obvious it was to me that week that the fear didn’t matter at all – that what mattered was he’d died without having the faintest idea of his value to me.

I also remember sitting at his wake thinking how ridiculous it is we wait until someone’s died to say just how wonderful they are to us.

That’s not something I want to happen again, which is why I’ve sent you this letter.

I know I’m still not as good at it as I could be, and maybe there’s times I’ve not supported you as much as you’d like.

You see the stupid thing is, even with that memory, I’m still really scared to let people know I care. I guess that’s what it is to be human.

The places you find Opportunity…

February 10th, 2010

OPPORTUNITY

…often comes disguised as a challenge

Surrender

When faced with an unexpected challenge it’s quite normal to feel some “negative” emotions like anger, grief, overwhelm or fear.The important thing is to allow yourself to feel them but not get stuck in them, otherwise you might miss the opportunity that’s surely going to come.

As the old saying goes, “Every cloud has a silver lining”, and it’s vital to our personal happiness to go looking for that lining. And the larger and more painful the challenge, the more you truly owe it to yourself to use the challenge to create the life you truly desire.

Intention For The Week

When you face a challenge, whether big or small, go looking for the opportunity that’s hidden within it.

Simple Empowerment Steps

  1. Use the art of Surrender and trust that, in the whole grand scheme of life, the challenge is actually perfect.If it seems that life has taken something away from you, have faith that you’ll receive something even greater back.

    If you go looking for the bad, you’ll find it; if you go looking for the good, you’ll find it; so why not look for the good?

  2. Ask yourself questions like, “How can I use this situation to benefit me?” and “How could this actually help me get what I want in life?”

My Personal Perspective

Inspiration can come from the most unlikely of places! I created the Opportunity message last night after I found out yesterday that my hours at my part-time job have been cut back to only 6 hours a week.

I had a call from the boss to come and see him before I went home, and after I got off the phone I wondered if I’d be finding out I didn’t have a job anymore. I promised myself that whatever happened, I’d see it as perfect.

On my drive home I didn’t feel angry – for financial reasons the company needs to do it and I can understand that – however I did notice a fair bit of fear coming up. Fear because I’m not in the strongest of financial situations at the moment, and my wage, though not large to begin with, was my safety net, and now that’s been largely taken away.

In spite of the fear (or maybe because of it), I stood in a place of surrender to the situation, and started looking at ways to make it work for me.

I realised that I only need to sell 20 copies of Love This Moment a week to replace the wage I’ve lost. That’s very do-able, so will be my immediate focus – and I’ll finally be putting into action various ideas that have lain dormant for probably far too long!

I fully expect to look back and see this as a turning point for my business and my life – that it’s just the kick up the backside I needed to get on with creating the life I truly desire. Life has a funny way of pushing you along your path if you drag your heels for too long!!

And one final example about finding opportunity in challenge. Anyone signed-up for my newsletter will be familiar with the full story that follows – I just wanted to share this part again from the perspective of the message of Opportunity.

The morning after I’d found out my friend, Greg, had died I woke up and couldn’t stop crying. I was washing my hands in the bathroom when I heard in my head some words he’d emailed me a couple of months before, “Life is too short to wallow in self pity”.

At that moment I made the decision I was going to look for every good thing I could find from Greg’s life and his death and I was going to be grateful.

In other words, I went looking for the opportunity in the challenge. I don’t know if I’ve ever made a more important decision in my life!

By choosing to look for the opportunity I’ve remembered that the most important thing in my life is to simply be happy now, without needing a reason why.

By looking for the opportunity I’ve created and published my book Love This Moment.

By looking for the opportunity I am now creating the life I truly want to live, not the one I think I should!

Greg’s death was one of the most painful experiences of my life, so I’ve made the commitment to myself to use it to make my life happier and more fulfilled.

I’m sure you’ve had your own equally painful challenges in life.

You owe it to yourself to take those experiences and use them to your advantage – to create the life of love and joy you truly desire in your heart and soul!

Love This Moment Now at Currumbin!

February 8th, 2010

I’m really excited to let everyone know that many of my Love This Moment products are now for sale at Beach Kulcha at Currumbin Beach on the Gold Coast!

The shop is full of the work of local Gold Coast Photographers, including many of my framed inspirational prints, magnets, keyrings, coasters, small unframed prints, and of course my book Love This Moment.

If you’d like to stop by, Beach Kulcha is on the beach-front on Pacific Parade, Currumbin Beach, between the Newsagent and The Deck Cafe (see map below).

And keep an eye out for an invite to opening night!

Beach Kulcha Location

Location of Beach Kulcha shop

An Introduction to Meditation

February 2nd, 2010

What if the only thing wrong is the belief something is wrong?

I’ve been contemplating that question a fair bit lately, including the several times over the last few weeks I’ve sat down to write an Inspirational Message of the Week, only to find myself lacking the vital ingredient of inspiration!

I want my newsletters to be of value to you, so even while I want to give you a newsletter regularly I won’t write one unless I actually have something to say!

So in keeping with the question above, it’s actually perfect I have nothing to say right now, as instead I can share with you some great wisdom from a special guest author!

I first met Nigel Coates a couple of years ago at a meditation group. Today he runs a wonderful website helping us to fully explore meditation. Nigel has been kind enough to share a great introduction to meditation with us…enjoy!

When people first think of meditation, they usually visualize someone sitting cross-legged on the floor for hours on end – bolt upright and motionless, possibly chanting the eternal humming sound of… Ohhmmmmmmm.

And they think to themselves, “I could never do that, it’s too uncomfortable!”

And rightly so! But rest assured, Meditation is not about the physical.

Meditation is ‘A mental discipline by which one attempts to get beyond the ‘thinking mind – into a deeper state of awareness and relaxation.’

If you are struggling to bare the pain of pins and needles, or wondering how on earth you are going to get up off the floor when you are done, you are not likely going to float blissfully on a cloud of relaxation.

So eliminate any pre-conceived ideas that strict posture is needed for meditation. Think of how you are most relaxed… Sitting in a comfortable chair, or laying face up in bed are both fine. It’s best not to fall asleep, (though it often happens to beginner’s, does you no harm, and leaves you refreshed and feeling great), but it doesn’t really develop the ‘mental discipline’ component of the definition.

There are many different techniques used to reach a meditative state.

Some methods, such as Vipassana, Buddhist, Zen and Taoist have been practiced throughout the Eastern world for thousands of years. Students of these forms can spend their lifetimes devoted to practice (which was a lot more common a thousand years ago than now).

Guided Meditation has become a very popular form, and is an excellent method for beginners, or those who only practice on occasion. A Guide leads you through the entire process. As you listen to the recording, the guide will draw focus to your breath, relax your body, and then lead you on a journey. With your mind captivated by the words it helps to reduce conscious thought. You can receive all of the benefits of meditation with ease and convenience.

In essence, each form of meditation has the same goal – to provide an opportunity to connect with your true self, spiritual purpose and universal knowledge. Independent of religion or belief, or even the technique used; the benefits to the mind, body and spirit are universal.

Nigel’s website, Explore Meditation is a meditation reference site to assist your spiritual growth.

There you’ll find further information on:

  • How to Meditate,
  • The different Types of Meditation you can practice,
  • Guided Meditations you can Download
  • and Meditation Videos

Nigel has an informative newsletter that breaks learning into bite-size pieces, to assist your meditation practice and spiritual growth.

When you subscribe to the newsletter, Nigel’s also giving you immediate access to the Guided Meditation MP3, ‘The Magical Colour Shower’.

Nigel describes this meditation as “A simple recording designed to introduce the varied elements of meditation; Relaxation, Breathing, and Visualisation. With just 10 minutes you can feel refreshed, connected, positive and centred. 10 minutes well spent!”

Sign up for Nigel’s wonderful newsletter at:

www.exploremeditation.com/newsletter.php

I also highly recommend checking out Nigel’s other resources at his website:

www.exploremeditation.com

As for me, now I’m going to meditate on the question I first asked… What if the only thing wrong is the belief something is wrong?

Love This Moment Challenge

January 1st, 2010

I’m so excited to be sharing the Love This Moment Challenge with you. The Challenge is all about fulfilling the Vision, Mission and Purpose of Love This Moment Inspirations.

The Challenge has three main objectives:

  1. To raise $100,000 for Opportunity International’s India Program.
  2. This will allow the creation of between 5,250 and 6,750 businesses in India over 10 years, which gives people the opportunity to make a sustainable living for themselves, so taking themselves and their family out of poverty.

    Over 10 years this will transform the lives of between 26,250 and 33,750 people – How awesome is that!?

  3. To inspire people to live their dreams and Love This Moment!
  4. The Challenge isn’t just about transforming the lives of people living in physical poverty. It’s also about transforming the lives of people living in spiritual poverty – in other words, people who aren’t loving their life.

    Looking around the developed world it seems there’s no end of people not loving their life – the evidence being in all the violence, drug and alcohol abuse, crime and suicide…and that’s only the most obvious signs.

    Many more people live in almost silent desperation – feeling unfulfilled, angry, bitter or depressed, then carefully covering it up so the world won’t know.

    This Challenge is about saying, “Life doesn’t have to be that way!”

    We can live the life we truly desire in our heart and soul. A life of love and joy. The life of our dreams!

    This Challenge is about showing that it’s possible, providing simple and powerful messages to remind us what is possible, and creating the means for people to make it possible.

  5. For me to realise one of my major dreams in life and travel to Antarctica.
  6. For many years I’ve had a burning desire to experience Antarctica, and this Challenge is my way of finally making that dream a reality.

    After the trip I’ll create a new book containing lots of beautiful photos of Antarctica, as well as the story of the Challenge and the trip itself. My intention is for the book to inspire people to live their dreams by “looking outside the square” and seeing how they can help others by achieving their dream. I’ll also be using it to raise more funds for Opportunity International, hence I’ll be using this Challenge as an example!

To find out more about the Challenge and to take part go to www.lovethismomentchallenge.com

I’ll be posting updates about the Challenge in this blog, so be sure to check on how it’s going!

We are all one.

December 30th, 2009

This does not mean we are all the same. We are not. We are all unique, and every moment of every life is unique, and that is where the beauty of life springs from – the magnificence and wonder of life. It is how life works and fits together.

For what would a song be if there was just one note?

What would a garden be if there was just one flower?

What would the world be if there was just one job? One enjoyment? One love?

What would a human be if there was just one emotion?

What would life be if there was just one experience?

All of it, and all of us, are necessary to create the beauty of the patchwork of life.

For what would a painting be if there was just one colour? Just one stroke?

Therefore celebrate the diversity of life – of nature, of the earth, of humanity, of our selves.

Celebrate the diversity that supports our own uniqueness – that highlights and brings out its beauty so that it may shine.

For only at night may we see the stars.

Only with sunshine and rain can there be a rainbow.

Only with the changing of the seasons and the weather – night and day, sun and rain, warm and cold – may we live.

Change is neither good nor bad, right nor wrong. Change is simply what allows life to exist.

So celebrate your uniqueness!

Revel in each others.

See that which is different and CHEER!

See that which changes and be grateful.

For this is life, and all of life is beautiful.

PERFECTION

It is our imperfections that make us perfect

Perfection

Today (and every day) is the day to celebrate the perfection of you!

My Christmas Wish

December 25th, 2009

Merry Christmas!

May you find something precious in every day.

If you don’t think you can just look in the mirror, because the greatest gift, is always you!

The Key Ingredient for Success

December 13th, 2009

FAITH

“…makes all things possible”
~Dwight L. Moody

Faith

What’s the difference between the person living their dreams and the person not?

Faith.

It’s faith that allows you to take action even when you don’t know where to start. It’s faith that keeps you pursuing your dreams even when things don’t turn out the way you’d like. It’s faith that lets you dare to dream in the first place!

I love the saying, in all the various forms I’ve heard it, “Whatever you can conceive and believe, you can achieve.” That if you dream it you have the means to achieve it, you just need FAITH.

You don’t need to compare yourself to others or judge yourself – just be you. Have faith in yourself and in the perfection of the universe (realise that we often can’t see the big picture) and follow your bliss.

For years I believed my photography wasn’t “good enough”. Eventually I realised I was comparing myself to the likes of Ken Duncan and Peter Lik, who’d been taking photos for many more years than I had, and that of course they’d had to start somewhere too.

So I stopped comparing myself to others and just allowed myself to be me. And importantly, to allow other people to see my work however they do. Some aren’t interested, some believe it’s magnificent, and by having faith in the truth of my heart and soul and allowing all opinions to be completely ok has given me enormous freedom and peace.

Intention For The Week

However the road to your dreams looks at the moment, keep faith that since you’ve dreamed it, you have the means to achieve it.

Simple Empowerment Steps

  1. Keep Moving!
  2. Ask, “What step can I take today that will take me closer to my dreams?”

    It doesn’t have to be a big step, it just needs to be a step. Dreams don’t arrive by waiting around, they arrive by continuing to take steps towards them.

    The journey may not always be what we expect, and it may take longer than we’d like, but it’s by having the faith to keep on taking the next step that they are achieved.

  3. Follow Your Inspiration
  4. The biggest steps towards your dreams will occur through inspiration. Allow yourself to be open to different ideas and actions, and follow your inspiration when it happens!

  5. Most Importantly, Remember to Enjoy the Journey!
  6. Stop making the destination – the dream – the most important thing. Yes it’s important to have dreams and to move towards achieving them, but don’t make it at the cost of having fun along the way.

    If you don’t enjoy the journey you either won’t reach the destination because you’ll give up because it’s too hard, or when you do achieve your dream it won’t give you what you wanted.

    So make each step fun and worthwhile, in and of itself. In that way, every step is an achievement, and regardless of how long it takes to reach your dream, you’ll be HAPPY, which is what you really want, isn’t it?

Shackleton’s Expedition

December 4th, 2009

I’m in Sydney with my parents for a few days and yesterday morning I was lucky enough to see Shackleton’s Antarctic Adventure at the IMAX cinema (extremely lucky, in that I happened to look on their website about 2 hours before it was on for the one and only time while I’m here).

What a magnificent movie! If you ever have the chance, go and see it! The photography is spectacular, and the story of Shackleton’s expedition must rate as one of the most amazing and inspiring in the history of man…seriously!! I’ll be getting it on DVD just as soon as I can.

It was Shackleton’s extraordinary story that first lit my desire to travel to Antarctica.

Back in early 2004 (I think it was) just before I left Canberra I went to the National Library to see an exhibition of a large collection of photographs from their archives from the late 1900’s to the 1920’s or 1930’s. It was an absolutely magnificent exhibition, with images from both famous and unknown photographers, chronicling the history of Australia at the time.

Amongst the exhibition was a section devoted to Frank Hurley’s photographs from Shackleton’s expedition to Antarctica in 1914. This was the first time I’d heard of Ernest Shackleton, and I was completely awe-inspired as I read about his ill-fated expedition. If you’re not familiar with it yourself, I’ll give you an overview now.

The plan was to sail his ship, Endurance, through the Weddell sea to the shore of Antarctica, where he’d attempt to be the first man to cross the continent of Antarctica.

His ambitions had to be put aside though, as Endurance became trapped in pack ice. The ice resisted all attempts to free the boat, and Shackleton and the other 27 men spent the Antarctic winter on-board, hoping she’d be free’d in the Spring.

Almost a year later Endurance had to be abandoned as it was crushed by the ice. The men tried to cross the ice to an island where provisions were stored, but were unable to. So they set up camp on the ice, trusting it would drift closer to where they wanted to go.

Some 5 months later the ice they were camped on broke apart and Shackleton decided they use their lifeboats to make for the nearest land, Elephant Island.

The first night they camped on a small ice flow, but the next 5 days and nights they spent in the lifeboats before finally getting to Elephant Island, where it took them another day to find somewhere to land.

Elephant Island was completely inhospitable and not a place they would be found, so Shackleton decided to risk an open-boat journey in one of the lifeboats to South Georgia. He had the ship’s carpenter strengthen the keel and build a make-shift deck and sails, then he and five of the men, including Endurance’s captain and navigator Frank Worsley, set off, leaving the other men behind to hope and pray.

For over two weeks the six men sailed through the rough seas before spotting South Georgia, thanks to Worsley’s amazing navigational skills. They could not land though due to Hurricane-force winds, so had to ride out the storm off-shore. Apparently the same storm sunk a 500-tonne steamer heading to South Georgia.

The next day they were able to land on the uninhabited south shore, where Shackleton decided to cross the island to the whaling station on the North-East rather than risk the ocean. He left three of the men behind and set out with Worsley and another man, Tom Crean, to cross previously uncharted parts of the island, over mountains, glaciers and crevasses.

After 36 hours the men made it to the whaling station. Shackleton immediately set off to rescue the three men on the other side of South Georgia.

It took another two months to rescue the men on Elephant Island due to ice, but they were all rescued in August 1916, almost 2 years after they set out.

All men returned from the expedition – not one life was lost!

Through the movie they often spoke of Shackleton’s amazing, positive attitude. How he never looked back at the past and what had happened, but just focussed on what he needed to do. And how he was always aware of keeping up the spirits of the men.

Shackleton never gave in, never gave up. From the time the Endurance first became trapped he set his intention to return all the men alive, and he did just that.

There was no-one to rescue them but themselves, and they showed just what we are all truly capable of.

It left me to think, “If they can do that, just what can I do?”

The Art of Surrender

November 23rd, 2009

SURRENDER

…is embracing the perfection of what is

Surrender

Surrender is not the same as giving up. Nor is it anything like resignation. It’s accepting what is right now and having the faith that it’s perfect however it is, even if you can’t see how that can be the case at the moment.

Intention For The Week

Make the commitment to view the circumstances in your life as perfect, whatever those circumstances are.

Simple Empowerment Steps

  1. Don’t try to work out how the circumstances can be perfect before surrendering too them – it will never happen that way.
  2. Instead stand in the place that they are perfect. If you surrender to that view regardless of what happens a day will come when you will truly be able to see the perfection that was previously hidden.

  3. The less you want to surrender to something the more you likely need to. Resistance keeps things stuck and unmomving, whereas surrender is what actually allows transformation to take place.

Our Greatness

November 9th, 2009

GREATNESS

“What lies behind us and what lies ahead of us
are tiny matters compared to what lies within us”
~Henry David Thoreau

Greatness

While at the Mind Body Spirit Festival I was pondering all the people going to see psychics. I’ve noted before at the beach markets on the Gold Coast just how busy the fortunetellers are compared to the rest of the stalls.

It seems that our fascination with our future stems from the belief, or perhaps hope, that the future will be better than now.

The problem with this is that the only time we really have is now…now is it – always and forever – and the future is something that doesn’t truly exist except as now. Now is when we can be happy, now is when we can be at peace, now is when we can laugh and love…only now.

We sometimes think the key to our lives is held somewhere in the future, when in truth everything we could ever truly want in our heart and soul lies within us right now – it’s just a matter of firstly remembering it and then embracing it.

Intention For The Week

Anytime you notice yourself looking to the future or an outside circumstance for fulfillment, come back into the present and give yourself or another right now whatever it is you’re looking for.

Simple Empowerment Steps

  1. If you’re like me you’ve had a lifetime of practice of living in the past or future, with the expectation of outside circumstances or people being required for your fulfillment.
  2. So don’t berate yourself when you notice yourself not being present, or forgetful of your true greatness. Instead celebrate your expanding awareness and the opportunity it now gives you to make a different choice. The more you notice and choose differently, the easier it becomes.

  3. Stand in front of a mirror and look deeply into your own eyes. Allow any thoughts to just drift across your consciousness as though they are clouds in the sky and not yours at all.
  4. Look deeply past the layers of identity and past you’ve created and see what lies beneath.

    Allow your heart to fill with love.

Being Happy

November 1st, 2009

HAPPINESS

The trick to life is being
happy with what you have

Happiness

Have you ever seen a documentary in one of the poorest countries on the planet where the people barely have enough to survive and yet laugh and smile more than the average person walking down a city street?

It’s so easy to start thinking we need this or that to happen so we can be happy, when in truth we can choose to be happy right now with what we have.

Often we get so caught up pursuing what we think will make us happy we actually give up our happiness in the process. We human beings sure are strange!

Intention For The Week

Become present to your desire for happiness that lies beneath all other desires in your life.

Simple Empowerment Steps

  1. Anytime you find yourself upset by what is or isn’t happening, ask yourself, “Do I want to be happy?”
  2. Asking this question is a simple way to realign yourself with what you truly want, and can stop you from making outside people and circumstances more important than your happiness.

  3. A few times a day just stop for 30 seconds to appreciate what is around you.
  4. Maybe it’s the beautiful blue sky and sunshine. Maybe it’s the wonderful lunch you’re enjoying. Maybe it’s the drink you just knocked over that’s given you something to laugh at!

  5. Notice if you ever judge or punish yourself for not being happy.
  6. Love and accept yourself right now however you are, whatever you’re feeling. The path to happiness isn’t through force or judgement, it’s through surrender.

    Remember, you are Perfect!

The Power of Gratitude

October 25th, 2009

GRATITUDE

When you are grateful for all the world as a gift from up above,
You’ll realise what you’re doing is simply allowing love

Gratitude

Intention For The Week

Become aware of things in your life to appreciate and be grateful for.

Simple Empowerment Steps

  1. Whenever you brush your teeth ask yourself, “What am I grateful for?”
  2. If something happens that upsets you, ask, “What can I be grateful for here?”
  3. When you go out, let go of any expectations about what you want to happen and instead go with the intention of simply appreciating the people you meet, the places you go and whatever events take place.
  4. Notice how any of the above make you feel.

This week’s quote comes from my book ‘Love This Moment’

The Secret to Life…

October 18th, 2009

PURPOSE

Every person’s true desire, throughout their very soul,
Is to live a life of love and joy. To be one and true and whole

Purpose

Intention For The Week

Make decisions based on what it is you really want.

Simple Empowerment Steps

Joseph Campbell put it perfectly… “Follow your Bliss!”

I put it slightly differently… “Love This Moment!”

Seriously, that’s all there is to it.

This week’s quote comes from my book ‘Love This Moment’

The Start of All of This!

October 11th, 2009

I was at a friend’s for dinner last night and was asked about how I started “all of this”.

I usually think of it starting with the first slideshow version of “Love This Moment” that I made months before even thinking of turning it into a book. Last night however, I remembered that wasn’t the start at all.

While in truth I can now see I’ve been on this path my entire life (even if I didn’t realise it at the time), the first time I ever put my writing together with my photography and sent it out into the world was back at Christmas 2005 with my verse “Little Spaces”.

I wrote “Little Spaces” about 6 months before in relation to the death of my Grandmother back in August 2004. Come Christmas time I put it together with one of my photographs, framed it and gave it to my Mum and Aunt.

It touched them and made them both cry, however I’d not put on there that I’d written it (I just assumed they’d know even though I hadn’t really shared any of my verses before then), so it was many months before my Mum actually realised it was mine!

Since then “Little Spaces” has gone on to touch and comfort many people who’ve lost someone they love. It’s a very special verse and I know it has some greater role to play, though not what that role is just yet.

So today I’d like to share “Little Spaces” with you, so you can remember the people you love.

Little Spaces

When a person leaves us
They leave a space that can
Never be filled by another being.

But the space isn’t empty.

Our thoughts and memories and
Feelings of the person will always live on there.

And while they will always remind us of our loss,
They will also remind us of how lucky we were
To share a part of our lives with that person.

The pain of losing someone close never goes away.

But with time you can more appreciate all the
Wonderful moments you had together.

You can smile and laugh as you remember all of the
Details that made them special to you.

And you can cry as you know that those memories
Will never be added to in this life.

The important things about a person
Will always remain with us.

And if we keep that place within us open
They will never truly die.

Little Spaces

To reach a dream that seems remote…

October 4th, 2009

PERSISTENCE

To reach a dream that seems remote you must round every bend,
Instead of always turning back to retrace your steps again

Persistence

Sometimes it can seem like the journey towards a particular goal will never end, but it’s important to remember that as long as you keep heading towards the goal and taking a step forward you will get there.

Just like on a real journey, for 99% of the time you aren’t at your destination, but that doesn’t mean you aren’t getting closer!

Think of it this way, if you were driving from Brisbane to Sydney, would you turn around at Port Macquarie just because you couldn’t see Sydney yet?

Intention For The Week

Be aware of a major dream in your life – what it is you really want – and keep moving towards it.

Simple Empowerment Steps

  1. Find something that will remind you of your dream and place it where you will see it every day.
  2. This could be a picture, a book, or simply you writing your dream on a card or in a journal that you read each day.

  3. Forget about how near or far the dream seems from you and focus instead on a single step.
  4. What is something you can do today that will take you one step closer to that dream?

    Don’t worry if the step is a large or small one provided it’s heading towards your dream.

  5. Repeat Step 2 tomorrow, and each day after that.

The more regularly you take a single step – whether large or small – the faster you will reach your dream.

If you stop taking steps towards your dream you’ll stop moving closer. If this happens, remember that it doesn’t matter what you did or didn’t do yesterday, you can always take another step today.

And you never know when your dream may be hidden around just the next bend!

This week’s quote comes from my book ‘Love This Moment’

“Love and do what you will”

September 27th, 2009

LOVE

…is who you really are

Love

Being love, you are always the source of love in your life.

While it may not always seem that way, if you look closely at those times it appears that another person is the source of love in your life, you’ll see that it’s actually your love for them that you are experiencing.

And conversely, looking to the heart of those times it appears someone has removed the source of love from your life, you will actually find that you have placed a condition upon love, and therefore cut yourself off from it.

The condition may be something like, “I can’t love them if they don’t love me.” Or more accurately, ” I can’t love them if they don’t express love for me in the way I expect them to.”

Or it may be a self condition like, “I can’t love myself because I have made this mistake…” or “…done this…” or “…lived up to my own expectations of myself.”

Whatever the case, whenever you experience a lack of love in your life if you look closely enough you will find a condition that you have placed there.

Let go of the condition and love will flow back into your life because love is life, and life is who you are.

As St Augustine so beautifully said, “Love and do what you will.”

Give as generously to yourself as you do to others.

September 20th, 2009

Do you give more to others than you do to yourself?

Have you noticed there are days when you feel like you just have no more to give?

Have you noticed an attachment to other peoples giving towards you? Maybe not with everyone, but maybe there’s one or two people who you (most likely unconsciously) expect to act in a certain way – a way that you believe will give you something (most likely emotionally)? And when they don’t give you what you need you feel upset, disappointed, hurt, angry or deflated?

If you relate to any of those questions it’s time for you to be as generous with yourself as you are to others.

It’s time to give fully to yourself.

You’ll know when you do because there’ll be an overflow that will naturally spill over into giving to others, and you’ll no longer have any attachment – conscious or unconscious – to what anyone gives you, as you’ll be giving yourself everything you need.

I felt this aspect of generosity was important enough to have its own week as I know the difference it makes to my life when I give fully to myself. And I know just how easy it is to forget!

Intention For The Week

Notice any underlying expectations of others and give to yourself what it is you expect to receive from them.

Addendum: I wanted to share with you that after I finish writing each of my newsletters I ask myself the question, “What is the message here for me?”

Sometimes I’m already conscious of the message and why I’ve been asked to remember it that week (as with “Courage”).

Other times I’ll become aware of something completely new, which brings about an action that is completely new, which in turn creates a possibility that didn’t exist before (as with “Presence”).

Either way I’m reminded just what an amazing world I live in!

Two Sides of Generosity

September 13th, 2009

GENEROSITY

…is both the giving and the receiving,
for there cannot be one without the other

Generosity

How often do we live our lives forgetting about the receiving side of generosity? Given many of us were brought up being taught “It is better to give than to receive”, probably a fair amount.

But actually it’s not better to give than to receive – they’re the two sides of the generosity coin and are both needed equally for true generosity to exist.

I think sometimes we mistake receiving for taking, which are in fact two very different things. Generosity is present in receiving, where it is absent in taking. Receiving enhances, while taking diminishes. Receiving actually gives something to the giver, whereas taking gives nothing at all.

I’m not saying here you should go around receiving things you don’t really want – saying, “Thanks I’d love a cup of coffee!” when you can’t stand the stuff.

I’m saying that when someone does give you something you want it’s very ok to be happy about it, and to show that you’re happy about it. That’s what receiving generously is all about – truly appreciating what you’ve received.

In the end, generosity is less about the giving and receiving than it is about the joy created and love expressed on both sides – think about children on Christmas morning and you’ll know what I mean.

Intention For The Week

Receive as generously as a child and give as generously as you receive.

Simple Empowerment Steps

  1. If you’ve not seen the movie ‘Pay It Forward’ I highly recommend watching it – it’s a very inspiring!
  2. Receive with appreciation, and notice how that appreciation affects the giver.

Your Greatest Gift

September 6th, 2009

PRESENCE

…is the greatest gift you have for another

Presence

Do you get that? Do you really get just how valuable your presence is to others?

Do you get how much more your being means than anything you could ever do?

When someone we care about is going through a tough time we naturally want them to feel better. And this desire can often leave us feeling helpless and useless as we have no idea of what we could do or say that would make a difference to them.

And sometimes this feeling of helplessness can result in us taking away the very thing that can make a difference – our presence.

A smile, a hug, a listening ear, your simply being there, makes a huge difference to others every single day, not just in troubled times, and I really want you to get that.

I really want you to get that you’ll never really know the difference you make to others, that you’ll never be given all the evidence of your value, because every person every time won’t express the difference you make to them (just like you!)

Your presence makes a huge difference to the world around you, in ways you can’t even fathom.

Never doubt your value to others. Never. Your simple presence, your being, your very existence, is the most valuable gift you have, and all you need do is share that in whatever way makes your heart sing.

Intention For The Week

This week, share your presence with others without requiring any acknowledgement in return (in other words, without any attachment to the outcome).

You know there’s something you’ve wanted to give that you’ve held back through self-doubt. This week, give it fully and see what happens. (Don’t expect…see!)

Simple Empowerment Steps

  1. When someone is speaking to you, whoever they are, be completely present.
  2. By this I mean, stop the chatter in your head thinking about what you want to say, what you want to do, what you think about the whole thing. Give the person your complete attention and clear your mind of any thoughts (just like when you meditate).

  3. Allow yourself to smile at the people you pass in the street, rather than push the impulse down because you’re worried what they might think. Even if they don’t smile back (…unlikely…) you’ll still feel great!
  4. If there’s someone in your life right now that’s going through a difficult time that you’ve avoided because you didn’t think you had anything to offer, just let them know that you care. Even a simple text message letting them know you’re thinking of them can make a difference.
  5. If you happen to be going through a difficult time yourself and are feeling alone, ASK someone you care about for their presence. Often people don’t want to be intrusive and are just waiting for you to tell them what it is you need.
  6. If you want to talk, ASK someone to listen to you.

    If you want a hug, ASK someone to give you one.

    Whatever it is you feel you need right now, ASK for it. If the first person you ask isn’t able to provide what you need, ask someone else. People WANT to be of value, so feel free to ASK.

And the really cool thing about presence is it’s a fantastic gift for you too!